Sunday, November 1, 2020

Bruce Winter (AKA Melinda Ryder) and Kirk Nelson

 
Every now and then one gets opportunities to talk to fascinating people who are true to themselves and are people that you want to call your friend. The first interview for this project is a couple that I met through my neighbor, Gary Banta who introduced us.  The interview with Bruce and Kirk can be found on StoryCorps at https://archive.storycorps.org/communities/oneing  I encourage you to listen to the StoryCorps interview first, then come back here for the rest of the story. 

I have to admit that I know nearly nothing of the craft that is Melinda's profession. In preparation for the interview I began to listen to other interviews that Bruce has done and look up some background information.  Bruce is best known as Melinda Ryder, who established a place for female impersonation in Kansas City gay clubs, her leadership in the LGBTQ community and her work to raise funds for a variety of charitable organizations. 

Bruce moved to Kansas City in the late 1970’s and was surprised that there was no female impersonation in any of the local gay clubs. Kansas City had a history of female impersonators entertaining straight audiences, but Ryder was a pioneer in bringing the art to clubs that catered to the LGBT demographic.

After moving to Kansas City, Bruce met Kirk Nelson, hairdresser, make-up artist, costume designer and as Bruce says it “all around fabulous drag husband.” The two have been together for 38 years, both on stage and in life. One article states “If you’ve seen Melinda Ryder wear it, chances are that Nelson has lent his creativity to it”.

In addition to other achievements, Ryder has reigned as Miss Gay Mid-West America 1979, Miss Gay Kansas America 1982, Miss Gay Missouri 1984 and Miss Gay Show Me State USA 1989. Nationally, she was second runner-up to Miss Gay America 1984. She was also honored with a Lifetime Achievement Award at the Zoey Awards in 2008.

Those in Kansas City  may know Ryder from her performances and emceeing at Club Cabaret, Starz on Broadway, Frisco Club, The Edge, Sidekicks, Missie B’s and many other venues around the city.

The charity and community organizations that Ryder supports include Show Me Pride, the Leukemia & Lymphoma Society, Be The Match and No MoreHomeless Pets.

Since 2002, Winter has survived non-Hodgkin’s lymphoma twice and pre-leukemia once. He has undergone two stem cell transplants and is now fifteen years out with no signs of disease.

I came across an excellent NPR interview with Melinda/Bruce that gives a good overview of Melinda’s career and marriage to Kirk.

https://www.kcur.org/show/central-standard/2016-03-11/kansas-citys-drag-matriarch-turns-60-this-weekend

For historical background on  female impersonation including a featured piece on Melinda Ryder: https://library.umkc.edu/content/images/glama/timeline/curator-program-hinds.pdf

References for this post:  

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tnr9TUngAaY

https://camp.lgbt/2016/02/16/melinda-ryder-40-years-of-drag-and-a-60th-birthday-celebration/


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